My dashboard is full of gorgeous alternative women with tattoos and crazy hair. And while I admit these women are very attractive I can’t help but feel A) bad for potentially causing, or fueling, insecurity in my fiancee regarding her own sex appeal and B) guilty for reblogging, let alone enjoying, these images that glorify the ridiculous societal “norms” of what a woman’s body should look like.
The alternative community has deep ties to societal rebellion and feminism so I don’t mean to imply ALL of the women are stick thin with big breasts, but the majority of them do seem to fit that mold. This may sound like a cop out, but it’s hard to understand why those girls are the most favorited and reblogged- our generation has been conditioned since birth to think all women should be thin with at least a big chest if not the ideal hourglass figure.
Doesn’t mean it’s impossible to break that mold. I’ve noticed that from 18 to now, at 24, my tastes have changed. Maybe it comes with age, or has more to do with where you are in life (college partying vs being engaged with a career) but the “average” woman is more attractive now than I can ever recall in my lifetime. With every new “real woman” campaign I see springing up I have more hope that another antiquated societal perspective will fade into oblivion where it belongs.
And to my fiancee- these words may fall on deaf ears, but I hope you never feel pressured to live up to ridiculous societal standards of beauty. Next time you doubt yourself, your body, or your features I hope you remember these words- YOU’RE PERFECT. That’s why I chose you, because you’re perfect FOR ME. To hell with what the magazines, movies, or rest of society have to say. BE YOU. BE PROUD. AND OWN YOUR INHERENT BEAUTY.